I’ll never forget my mother telling me that when I grew up and got married I would have a beautiful 6 tier wedding cake, just like the one she dreamed of and never got. Her wedding back in 1986 was a large Modern Orthodox ceremony and reception. When she asked for a wedding cake both sides of parents poo-poo’d the idea and declared it “goyish”.
Toronto based Ellen Jane Desserts hasn’t always found that to be true.
“A lot of couples that order from us are secular but still want a delicious, beautiful, hand-made, Kosher, lactose free cake. [Since many will make a wedding dessert Pareve, which means it does not contain milk or meat ingredients] With that being said, we also have plenty of customers that are Modern Orthodox who have also ordered wedding cakes from us. I’d say it ends up coming down to personal preference.”
Whether it’s a non-Jewish tradition or not, it seems most of us want some form of a wedding cake or another. And the people behind them couldn’t be happier. “We love making wedding cakes, it really gives us a chance to show off our creativity and skill.”
Over at Modern Bite they also haven’t really found that to be the trend. Dan said, “in my experience Bar Mitzvah cakes were all the rage but nowadays no one really does that anymore.”
There doesn’t seem to be any reason why a Jewish couple can’t have a wedding cake, but it does have some history. We liked Let Them Eat Cake‘s explaining here: History of the Wedding Cake
Amy Munch, a Ketubah.com bride, submitted the first two pics from her wedding from Oleander Bakery in Cocoa, Florida. First is her groom’s cake, the Hylian Shield from Legend of Zelda, and then her traditional wedding cake.
Will you be having a wedding cake at your Jewish wedding? Why or why not? We’d love to hear!